Henry:
I love you more than words can possibly describe. You are my reason for everything and your success is absolutely paramount in any list of priorities I'll ever have.
I am doing everything I can to stay around and raise you the best I possibly can, as you are such an incredible person already and your whole family is excited for all the potential you have already displayed.
This blog is going to be from here on dedicated to you and everything I've learned in my 40 years. I would like to pass on this knowledge to you. You may have heard me say some of this stuff already but we all need reminders.
The first and most important information I could think of is this:
Never, ever, ever base your actions or internal mindset on what others think or say.
Take pride in your own appearance, dress for success, practice good hygiene and use manners and respect towards others always, but do this for YOUR success and happiness not because of what others will think.
Take stock of what you want out of life, whether that is a career, a family, a nice house or a nice life... and then figure out what you have to do to make that happen. Nobody will give these things to you, you have to work for every aspect of your life. When you do accomplish these things for yourself you will feel like a king I promise, there is no better feeling for a man than accomplishment and building his own life, and taking care of his family.
WORK HARD! Right now (you are 9) that means school. Your priority has to be grades. It absolutely comes first over anything. Without doing well you at school, the rest of your life becomes so incredibly hard for no reason other than you decided it was more important to goof off with your friends for 6 hours a day then to get your work done. Trust me you will regret it. Nothing sadder in life than wasted potential.
I am speaking from experience there (as I will for most of these posts), and I took a very unconventional route. I did not do well in school in high school and although I knew how to do most of the work, I didn't. I went back to upgrade and complete my high school grades when I was about 22, I wandered around post secondary education for about 20 years after that, not knowing what would make me happy in life. I could have avoided all this pointless pain and wandering by just doing the work in school the first time.
What I want you to do, is decide in high school what you really like doing in life, and then figure out how to make money doing that. I'd advise you to look out for your own happiness in this sense as well. Do not get into social services or welfare services, although it may seem like a noble and giving profession you will burn out and start to change your philosophy on social welfare if you go into a career of this sort. If you end up making the wrong choice and want to try a different career out, that is totally fine. I'm just trying to avoid you waiting until you are 40 like me to finally get your life figured out. That is 20 years of my life wasted and I wouldn't wish that on anyone else.
Do some research, make some money... although money doesn't equal happiness, always hurting for money always equals unhappiness. Life is tough without money.
Remember as well, keep being you and the awesome kid that you are. Remember you don't have to goof off at school to get people to like you, the best people are drawn to successful people in life, not the idiot that started smoking weed in high school and flunked out because he'd rather sit in some kids basement playing video games than getting anywhere in life.
This might seem like an old man trying to explain everything to you, but know that this comes from a place of complete love and support for you (my son, my everything). I only want you to have a happy life where you can have the things you want.
One last thing: the moment someone shows you who they are with disrespect, believe them... run away from people willing to disrespect you in any way. Especially if its a cute girl, those people will never change and are trying to manipulate you. Real good relationships are ones of mutual respect. And love, love always.